Typically the baby fights sleep even worse than they did before but if you stick with pu/pd your baby will pop right back. Eventually, after all your hard work, your kind words and touch will put your baby to sleep.
This method DOES work if you do it correctly, stick to it and ride it out.
You hold your hands to your baby and say let me pick you up and you pick them up when they reach to you.
You pick them up in a cradle position and say Its okay, were just going to sleep.. Put them down immediately after you say your key phrase.
Hi Joanne So sorry to hear you are having such a tough time with this it sound exhausting and upsetting for you all Lets see if he can help you all get more sleep. As some children get confusionall arousals see here Sleep walking - Netmums and scroll down to confusionaql arousals in case this is what may be happening It sounds as if you have had some settling difficulties with him and you have been doing pick up put down.
This is quite hard to do with an toddler of this age. Pu/pd becomes more of a partnership at 6 months of age and it is key that you follow your babys pace and make the following adaptations to the basic procedure as described on Netmums here Pick up / Put down sleep training - Netmums You dont pick them up as a matter of course but you offer them pick up.
She just doesn't like the change and that is probably true of all of us once we are used to something happening in a certain way.
Try not to worry about his crying during the PU/PD method as you are there for him and he is having his sense of security re-inforced by the fact that you are.
Unfortunately there is no quick fix, and this is a lot of work, but it is well worth it in the end.
You may want to invest in earplugs to help deafen the cries. Consistency is the key to success with any methods that you might use, I am not sure how you are using the pick up put down perhaps you can tell me.
Babies 8 months and up tend to soothe faster in the cot so you don't really pick them up, At this age you really dont do any pick up as babies 8 months and up tend to soothe faster in the cot.
You wait for them to stand up or pull up and then you place them back down so they are looking away from you and not at your face. Your baby will start to recognize what you are saying, eg.
First you stay in the room until asleep, then move a few feet from the cot, in a few days you move to the door, then out the door.